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It is the dream of every Jewish parent to be able to add another precious yiddishe neshama into their family. The question, however, is at what cost?

Should you have more children if you are unsure that you have the financial means to do so?

In the following letter from the year 5712, the Rebbe radically changes our perspective on how to view the value of a Jewish child. Unlike the worldly view that additional children mean additional costs and additional financial strains, it is quite the contrary when it comes to Yiddishe children. Every additional Yiddishe child brings along with it additional brachos for the home both spiritually and financially; it is only incumbent upon us to create a proper keli to receive these abundant brachos: 

ב"ה, ב' סיון, תשי"ב ברוקלין. שלום וברכה! …מיט פרייד האב איך געלייענט, אז דער קימפעט פון אייער פרוי תחי' איז אדורך בשלום און זי האט געבארען א זון וועמען מען האט א נאמען געגעבען... שי'. השם יתברך זאל אייך העלפען אז איר צוזאמען מיט אייער פרוי, זאלט מגדל זיין עם מיט אייער עלטערן זון שיחיו, לתורה לחופה ולמעשים טובים ומתוך פרנסה בהרחבה. אין אייער [בריף] דערמאנט איר, וועגען אייער זארג פאר פרנסה, דארפט איר געדיינקען דאס וואס עס שטייט אין די הייליקע ספרים, אז ווען עס ווערט געבארען א זון, איז דאס א סימן ברכה אין הויז, און אויך אין דעם פרנסה, און בכדי אויף צואיילען דאס, דארף מען זיין שטארק אין בטחון צו השם יתברך, וואס ער ברוך הוא איז דער זן ומפרנס לכל, און וויל געבען מידו המלאה, נאך א זאך דארפמען געדיינקען, אז מען דארף מאכען כלים, צו אויפנעמען די ברכות פון השם יתברך, וואס בכלל איז דאס די ענינים פון תורה ומצות, און בפרט דאס געבען צדקה, און אויב עס דאכט זיך א דוחק אין פרנסה, דארפמען דענסטמאל געבען צדקה מער ווי פריער, בכדי אויף צו ווייזען השם יתברך דורך דעם, אז מען האט גרעסערע באדערפענישן אויף צדקה, במילא וועט ער געבען מער פרנסה ווי פריער, און השי"ת זאל העלפען אייך און אייער פרוי שיחיו אז איר ביידע זאלט זיין שטארק אין בטחון, און זאלט בקרוב זעהען אז די ברכה פון השם יתברך ווערט מקוים מיט פרנסה בהרחבה. בברכה צום גוטען געזונט פאר אייך אייער פרוי און אייערע קינדער שיחיו און א פרייליכען יום טוב שבועות. נ"ב: איר האט ניט געשריבען אויף וואס איר שיקט די געלט, האב איך דאס איבערגעגעבען צום מרכז לעניני חינוך, אלס א גוטע התחלה פאר דעם תורה חינוך פון אייער ניי געבארענעם זון לאריכות ימים ושנים טובות.

אג"ק ח"ו אגרת א'תרד


The following clip is a video from the Yud Shvat farbrengen of תשמ”א, in which the Rebbe addresses the above-mentioned issue and shares a timeless lesson on how one is to approach it:



 The following letter was written to a doctor who asked the Rebbe about various medical issues in halacha. After detailing his opinion on the topics of Observant Jews being practicing physicians, the problems of "birth control" and "family planning," the Rebbe went on to discuss the issue of abortion. 

The Rebbe was candid in his opinion,

“The destruction of a fetus is strictly prohibited except, as mentioned, in extraordinary cases.” This law is just as applicable for Jews as is is for non-Jews as the Rebbe went on to say, “ you surely know that Jewish Law makes it incumbent upon Jews to use their influence with non-Jews to help promote the so-called Seven Laws that have been given to the children of Noah, with all their ramifications. These laws include also the prohibition of abortion.”

The Rebbe went on to make another strong point based off of the Gemara which states that Moshiach will only come after the birth of all the children who have to be born,

“Thus it is clear that when even a single woman aborts the birth of a child, it is not just her affair or her own problem, but it affects the Geulah of all our Jewish people and with it the Geulah of the whole world.”

In the Rebbe’s words:

The beginning of the letter:

The continuation of the letter, getting to the crux of the issue:


Everyone should realize that there is a Creator and Master of the world Who has prescribed a definite order by which the human race should live. The destruction of a fetus is strictly prohibited except, as mentioned, in extraordinary cases.


There is really no difference in this matter between Jewish or non-Jewish patients. First of all, you surely know that Jewish Law makes it incumbent upon Jews to use their influence with non-Jews to help promote the so-called Seven Laws that have been given to the children of Noah, with all their ramifications. These laws include also the prohibition of abortion. Indeed, for some reason, the Torah declared that destruction of a fetus by a non-Jew is even more serious than by a Jew not that abortion can be treated lightly by Jews, as outlined above.


It is well known that I do not, nor is it one of my functions, to pasken shaalos, especially as there is the Union of Orthodox Rabbis and similar Rabbinic bodies who have come out clearly and emphatically against family planning and the like. I have gone out of my way to express my views on the matter in this letter only because abortion has become now not only widely acceptable but, on the contrary, it is claimed to be a thing of justice, women's independence, etc. etc., although it makes no sense to say that a woman should have a right to kill an unborn child or even a fetus in order to assert her independence. Nevertheless, so great is the confusion and darkness of the present day and age, that even some persons of higher education and supposedly knowledgeable in the fields of ethics and philosophy and the like, have also come out in support of this evil.


Finally, I would like to make reference to a saying of our Sages which, at first glance seems incomprehensible, but it is nevertheless part of our Torah, Toras Chaim, our true guide in life. This Talmudic saying is to the effect that the true and complete Geulah will come only after the birth of all the children who have to be born. Thus it is clear that when even a single woman aborts the birth of a child, it is not just her affair or her own problem, but it affects the Geulah of all our Jewish people and with it the Geulah of the whole world.


In light of the above, there can be no doubt that it is not only proper and right, but also a direct obligation on the part of every Jew, to do whatever is possible in this area, as well as in all matters of Torah and mitzvos to the best of one's ability and influence.


With blessing,


The Letter and the Spirirt, Vol. 5, PP 116

 

The Halacha varies in context of levels of danger to the mother and stage of the pregnancy.

Therefore, it is imperative to consult a Rov in all cases, whether is seems to be a case where one should be maikel or machmir.

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